My dad has ocular melanoma. He was miss diagnosed for 18 months and told he had conjunctivitis by a consultant at a specialist eye hospital in Birmingham. An eye consultant then spotted the tumour in dads tear duct and diagnosed OM. He told us that the only treatment was radical facial surgery to remove dads eye and about 1/3 of his face. Dad was 86 at the time and refused surgery. We weren’t offered any other treatment. 2 1/2 years later my dad has been fighting cancer when we got an oncology appointment. At this point we hadn’t seen an oncologist. Dads tumour now covers about 1/3 of his face. He is weak and struggling to eat. Oncology consultant couldn’t believe this was our first referral and told us the original consultant was wrong. The tumour could have been shrunk and dad could have had less invasive surgery. Even at this point they are offering treatment. I feel that I should have known more but excepted opinions of 3 doctors who all told us the surgery was very invasive. I feel like I have let dad down. I am spending every day with him. He is in a wheel chair and very poorly. I love him so much its just hard to watch him fade. He is 89 in a few days time.