I really hope you can help. I had protected sex with a CSW on the 16th March, she put the confirm on and performed oral, which after you got on top for a few mins, when she was in on top I felt warm wetness, felt like it must of come out of her.

After this we had sex from behind, I recall the condom was not to the base most likely 2/3 down, Once ejaculating and removing, the condom to the best of my memory seemed intact, I had to roll off to remove.

Couple of weeks later I started feeling a slight ache in my lower glutes and thighs, apart from that I don’t think I have had any other symptoms bar one night of stomach problems and going loo more which could be down to protein shakes.

Now I have a partner, which last Friday I had sex with, she started feeling unwell this Tuesday and last night she had a temperature of 102, achy, swollen glands, this morning her temperature was normal, but is still achy.

My questions are, if the condom failed would it be glaringly obvious to me, are my symptoms consistent with infection and have I passed it on to my partner, can she be showing symptoms less then 7 days since we had sex, also last two days I have been feeling a bit chilly.

I’m really worried, I have made a grave mistake, I have a young family, which I have now ruined due to my selfish and irresponsible behaviour.

I would greatly appreciate any advice from you.

Thank you,